I don’t understand why Men can be such pussies sometimes. I mean you are a man; doesn’t it go against your nature to go cower in a corner and not return a girls calls or ignore them? Wouldn’t it make more sense for men to stand their ground and just be done with it?
Soooo many times have I myself or my girlfriends been in situations where everything seems fine in a relationship and then one day the guy is just gone. Was I dating Houdini? I don’t think so, more like an asshole who didn’t have the guts to tell me he wasn’t in to me or whatever.
What guys don’t understand is it would be much easier on them to just tell us that they are not into it. There would be no more “what ifs”, no more wondering if they will come back, or generally wondering what went wrong. I think part of the reason guys do not want to break up with a girl in person is because they do not want to make the girl cry or watch them cry! Who cares if we cry its one time then its over. You never have to see us again. Why is it better in some men’s eyes to just ignore us? We call a few times or message and no answer? By the time we realize you are not talking to us, it could have been over by a conversation weeks ago!
I think some men ignore because they are also not sure if they want to break up with you so they keep you in this perpetual limbo mode until THEY decide what they want to do and/or if there is another girl they would rather be with. This is where I think a lot of women make the mistake of just waiting around. If a man is that uncertain about your relationship that he needs to take a “break”, ignore you or disappear, he is not the one.
One guy I dated for a month, it was great, we hit it off, then one day he just never returned my call. I texted him another time after that and just gave up, flabbergasted. WTF. A year later I heard from him. He apologized for being what he called was a “jerk”, that he didn’t see a future with us and didn’t know how to tell me so he just decided it would be better for ME to just not talk to me anymore. I told him I appreciated his candor at the time, but that he could have told me this a year ago and it would have been fine.
Because men are not innate nurturers or communicators like women, maybe this is where the disconnect is.
Whatever the excuse is, MEN, PLEASE DO NOT DO THIS! Be open and honest with us and set us free.