This answer is plain and simple: Because they got what they wanted.
It took me a long time to figure this one out, in part because my self esteem was so low after my last long-term break-up. I thought if I had sex with a guy sooner it would mean he wouldn’t be sleeping with someone else. WRONG!
I think a lot of women also make the mistake of equating sex with love. Men think differently than women, they can have unemotional sex and not get attached. Its dangerous sleeping with a guy you are not sure of or don’t know well.
The fact of the matter is, unless you have known the person prior to dating, if you have sex with a man right away he is not going to respect you. He didn’t have to work for it, it was too easy. AND you don’t even know him well enough to know if all he wants is sex, not a relationship.
I am trying this new thing….waiting. At first it was a 3 date rule (3 REALLY GOOD DATES…then sex haha) and now it’s based on how I feel but definitely not on the first date.
Steve Harvey was on Dr. Phil the other day talking about his book “Straight Talk, No Chaser: How To Find, Keep, And Understand A Man”. He was talking about how women should wait 90 days before sleeping with a man. By waiting 90 days, it helps women weed out the men that just want to sleep with them and a chance to get to know the person better. Those guys who really like you WILL wait. Steve Harvey says that no one wants to take the “loosey goosey” home to meet Mom!!
Now, even from my perspective 90 days is LONG!! But having sex on the first date or third date doesn’t work either. There has to be a happy medium. Until you can be confident of the guys intentions, wait it out. You are worth the wait.