Its hard when you meet someone to not build them up in your head.
Everyone wants to meet “the one”. I think it is natural to want the next person you meet to BE that person. Perhaps we want it so bad though that we make the mistake of overlooking red flags sometimes.
I have definitely made the mistake of building up guys in my head that I am dating because I wanted them soooo bad to be that person for me. Instead of letting go the ones that were not right for me, I held on longer than I should have because I was trying to make them something they were not.
I think it is natural to feel this way, the only thing is, the more you build someone up in your head, the more it could hold you back from actually meeting the person that IS in fact AMAZING!
It’s so easy to meet the next person and think “he has got to be the one” on that first date. But give him a chance to prove it. Ask yourself what you really like/love about the person.
I know I am going to try my best go forward to see the guys I am dating as they are. No one is perfect for sure. It is important to recognize what you want and set those people free that do not fit in with your wants and desires. Don’t try to mold someone into what you want, open yourself up to FIND and ATTRACT that person of your dreams that IS what you want.
I think its important to not live a lie, the more we give into a lie, the less we are living our lives to our full potential.
Stop building up the person you are dating in your head, it’s not only unfair to them but unfair to you as well.