Sometimes I feel like Mastin Kipp (The Daily Love) speaks to me.
In a recent post by Mastin he speaks of learning to know when to let relationships go, to know when the lesson is over. I have spoken before about believing that relationships are meant to teach us lessons. Relationships are not always meant to stay a lifetime but are still important none the less.
I have been guilty of sometimes holding on too long to relationships after I know they are done. I try too hard to mold them into something they are not and often disregard a lot of the warning signs that are there indicating the relationship is not the right one for me. Why do I do this?
I want to be loved.
But by trying to force something that is not there is not going to help me find that love and prevents me from moving on to more healthy love relationships.
The thing I am learning to do is accept relationships for what they are. Each relationship does afford me with an opportunity to learn something.
One of my lessons I believe is the art of letting go and being okay to be alone, to open myself back up to love.
By doing that I am loving myself first, maybe something I have forgotten or over looked until now…
Check out Mastin’s Post below I was referring to:
It’s okay to let go.
True Love is letting go. Freedom and free will are the by-products of Love.
So many of us lead our lives holding on so tightly that nothing new, nothing miraculous can find us.
We have been taught for a very long time that holding on is what makes us strong, is what Love is made of and is the best answer.
But we are stepping into a new paradigm. We are stepping into a time where growth and Love lead the way. This means we are constantly changing, evolving, dying and being reborn.
What must come first is our own spiritual growth. This means listening to our intuition, trusting our gut and expressing ourselves authentically without hiding.
Holding on to a broken relationship stunts our growth. You don’t get points from The Uni-verse for how much you suffer. The Uni-verse wants to deliver to you all that your heart desires.
Our relationships have been sent to teach us, to mold us and to shape us. When we seek Love, The Uni-verse sends us all kinds of relationships that bring to the surface all the blocks we have to Love.
We must learn to identify when the lesson is over. Relationships are containers for growth, not opportunities to suffer so we can prove how much we “love” someone. And a relationship isn’t full if both people aren’t in self-love and then sharing their love with each other from a place of overflow.
Some people are sent to us for quick lessons, some are sent to us for seasonal lessons and some are sent to us for a lesson we are to be taught over a lifetime.
Let us not try to learn and purify ourselves outside of Love, but instead invoke Love in our lives and recognize that the Love of The Uni-verse IS the purifier and the teacher. The face of Love may change, but the energy of Love of The Uni-verse never changes.
Let us no longer try to prove our Love by how much we can hold on to toxic situations and people, but rather by how much we are willing to let go once the lesson has been learned. There is no rulebook for this principle. This is something we must each learn individually and grow into.
The Uni-verse is setup so that we have free will to choose to connect to Love, or not. We must give ourselves this freedom as well as all the people in our lives.
For Love does not seek to control, but rather gives freedom.