Manifesting Your Soulmate: How do I do this?

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I hate Valentines Day (but I like pretty things hence the picture). 

No, not just because I am single (only a little) but because why can`t you show you love someone all year round?  Why do you need a stupid Hallmark day in order to get you off your ass to show someone you love them?

Clearly I am a bit cynical today lol.  I have a stomach flu and…its Valentines Day.  My cat Emily is taking care of me….again I could be eaten by wild dogs and no one would notice!! okay… maybe a slight over reaction.  

I decided to write anyway today because a lot of people are thinking today about what they DON’T have, that loved one to share this “special” day with. 

I received an email today from my friend Karen Black, author of Moondance and creator of the Soulmate Site.  She is a wise woman, someone I trust to ground me and provide me with guidance to set good intentions in times like these where one may be feeling a bit discouraged. 

 She reminded me to set strong intentions for that special person I want to manifest into my life, that any passionate emotion expressed followed by immediate action does spark creation.

What does this mean? How do you do this?

Basically, start thinking about your soulmate, what do they look like?  What do they feel like?  What qualities do they have?  Imagine that person as if you could touch, feel and smell them.

Read books about soulmates, watch movies, hang out with like-minded people.  If you HAVE TO put yourself out there, maybe check out a dating site!! …..gawd I know.

Surround yourself with thoughts and actions that promote entry of that soulmate into your life!

BELIEVE your soulmate exists. 

Lets try doing something once a day atleast that promotes soulmate energy and sets that intention, a thought, action, anything, I believe, do you?

Here is a brief excerpt from the email that sparked this post, I love getting Karen’s email reminders:

 Dear Sarah,
> 
> …but I’ve decided that TODAY will be the last 
> Valentines I’ll be spending solo. 
> 
> Not that there’s anything wrong with that…
> 
> *****************************************
> ARE YOU WITH ME?
> *****************************************
> 
> To kick-start this and get the energetic Forces off 
> their arses, here’s what to do:
> 
> 
> 1. DECIDE. NOW. Get REALLY TICKED about it.
> Shake your fists. Demand: “My soulmate manifests NOW!”
> Don’t forget to say thank you.
> 
> THEN! This is critical… 
> 
> 2. Take an IMMEDIATE ACTION. This way, your
> soul knows you mean business.
> 
> 
> *****************************************
> ALIGNED ACTION IDEAS
> *****************************************
> 
> LISTEN to a heart-opening song….
> 
> Loud! Move as if you’re dancing with
> him or her. “Throw your curtains wide…”
> http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hk2xaeXnxlM 
> 
> 
> COMMIT to a soulmate ritual
> 
> Read my Dec 23 or Jan 27 issues of Moondancing.
> Book a date with a friend NOW to *do* one ritual. 
> 
> (if you didn’t receive them, e-mail me and ask)
> 
> 
> READ Moondance
> 
> It’s an addictive spin about love, life and the nature of
> reality. Hint: it’s also a soulmate story.
> http://www.karenmblack.com/buy_Canadian/index.html 
> *****************************************
> REALLY TICKED?
> *****************************************
> 
> Go on, you know you want to.
> 
> (Yes, these are my affiliate links – ugly but
> perfectly safe)
> 
> 
> SPIRITUAL SINGLES
> http://www.spiritualsingles.com/342.html
> 
> eHARMONY
> http://www.dpbolvw.net/click-5594503-10303717
> 
> 
> 2012 is YOUR year baby. Believe it.
> 
> (whistles, yoo-hoos, wild gyrations)
> 
> 
> Happy Valentines Day…

My New Favorite Book: Moondance

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“The idea is to write down your intention.  But not from a feeling of need, or from longing or sadness, from a feeling of gratitude, as if it has already happened.  Feel it first, imagine it.  Then write it down in the present, as if you’ve already received it.  Write about who you are, your life, how you make a living, your home.  Everything.”

  “I find that scary.”

“Well, it’s no wonder.  We spend most of our lives longing for something that we don’t have, or attracting what frightens us the most.  This is about consciously creating your life.  For you, it’s pulling together everything you’ve learned and worked toward…”

I just finished reading Moondance by Karen Black, this book had inspired my previous post “IMPORTANT: Are you being true to your inner desires?”

If I could describe this book in one word it would be; Breathtaking.

Reading this book was like undergoing a journey of my own. As a single, professional woman, Karen Black brings all those insecurities, thoughts and emotions to the forefront of your mind on an epic journey to explore who you are and what you believe in.

For those that did not read my original post, Moondance is about a women named Althea Brecht who finds out her world is not what it seems.  Althea’s boyfriend betrays her and she is left feeling lost in the world.  In an effort to seek out guidance she not only turns to her family, but to that of Tarot Cards and Astrology.  Much like myself, she has a drive for writing and questions her sanity more and more when it comes to the reality she once knew and her current situation.

The internal angst Althea goes through touched me to my core.  I not only read the words in this book, I felt her pain and struggle.  Much like Althea I too question my life purpose, all the while just wanting to be loved by that special someone the way I know I can be.

Althea pulls the Hanged Man card.

“No Althea, you tell me, it’s your life.  Why did you create a lover and best friend that betrayed you?”

 The idea that we can create intention in our lives and that events that happen are of a larger plan supported by lessons we have predetermined from another lifetime, is an underlying theme of this book.

Althea envisions her soulmate well before she see’s him with her own eyes.  And even though he is right in front of her, she is not ready; therefore she does not recognize him.

This book plays on the fact that everything happens when the time is right.  Life is not perfect, and the events that happen are meant to teach us lessons to get where we need to be.

At one point in the book, you almost think Althea is going insane, Althea sure thinks she is.  Althea starts seeing visions as her journey takes her to the climax of her emotions and underlying purpose.

Karen Black weaves such an intricate emotional story, that the reader gets truly invested in the character.  I felt what Althea felt, I wanted her to succeed and ultimately find her soulmate.  I even cried when she cried.  As an inquisitive mind, one that has been searching for love and exploring my life purpose, this book unveiled a lot of deep hidden emotions that I sobbed for a long time after closing this book for the last time.  In part, on a spiritual journey, I feel I was meant to read this book, to explore my own emotions and question my own reality.

This book turns you upside down and then back again.  Although a scary thought, if you are truly on a journey as I am to find yourself, to find that one special love, you will want to read this book.

Karen Black makes you feel that you are not alone, in the “insanity” of questioning life and your purpose.  That not everything is as it seems, nor has to be created within a certain “box”, timeline or ideology.

By reading Moondance, Karen Black made me believe that the Universe does want everyone to succeed and find love.  That through pain, love, hope and exploration we can achieve our ultimate dreams and make them a reality.

Read this book, it will change your life and the way you look at the world.

To purchase this book click on the Link BUY MOONDANCE NOW

Also, check out Karen Black’s website The Soulmate Site.

IMPORTANT: Are you being true to your inner desires?

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I lay awake last night, not able to sleep, sometimes I find it hard to shut my brain off. 

I recently got promoted to a Training and Development Consultant position in my company, a prestigious position that I have worked towards for the past 2 years.  I will have two equivalents of my “old self” reporting into me now across Canada.  When I first took this job 2 years ago I was ecstatic, it felt right and I was surprised at just how GOOD I was at my job.  This promotion was everything I had been working toward, everything I ever wanted.  The money, prestige, recognition is all there now. 

Then why am I more excited about writing on my Blog?

I surprised myself with my reaction.  As a little girl I loved to write, a lived for it and would even write chapter books.  At some point in my teens I lost the love to write.  Perhaps through having to be graded to write and the pressure, mandatory nature that came along with it pushed me away to rebel against the hobbie that I loved.

I was an accomplished writer in University, writing essays was my fortay and I never received less than an A, but they were essays, I could have really cared less about writing about a topic that was dictated by another. 

Karen Black, owner of the Soulmate Site, recently passed along her book to me called Moondance.  I can’t seem to put the book down, yet I want to take my time to savor the words!  It’s as if Karen wrote this book for me, but she barely knows me?

Briefly, the book is about this women Althea who finds out her world is not what it seems.  Althea’s boyfriend betrays her and she is left feeling lost in the world.  In an effort to seek out guidance she not only turns to her family, but to that of Tarot Cards and Astrology.  Much like myself she has a drive for writing and questions her sanity more and more when it comes to the reality she once knew and her current situation. 

If you want to read along with me you can purchase the book via Karen Black’s website: Purchase Moondance

This book is a welcomed “coincidence” and comfort to my current position.  Love, Life and Spiritual Awareness are all intertwined. I have to admit the book can be a bit “sexy” at times which I don’t mind either!

 With all this being said, I wonder sometimes if what we THINK we want and need is not actually what our heart/mind desires.  This can be in relation to our career or relationships. 

I mean, are we working towards goals in our lives that we truly desire?  Or are we really just trying to fulfill our families, our societies or our need to prove something to the world?

In relationships, are you dating the people you THINK you should be dating, or the people you actually KNOW you should be dating. 

When it comes to my job, it pays the bills right now.  Do I think it is my life purpose to be a Training and Development Consultant?  Absolutely not.

I believe the universe wants us all to be happy, to live our lives to our highest potential.

What is your hearts desire?  Do you have the guts to swallow that fear and follow that desire?

What is a Soul Coach? Charmayne Kilcup

In a previous post, Do you believe in Soulmates? My Soulmate Story ,I spoke about my gut wrenching, awakening experience with a man who I believe was a Soulmate. 

At the time I believe I was experiencing Soul Shock, the withdrawal from a soulmate energy that causes much pain and distress. 

To combat and better understand the turmoil I was encountering I turned to a Soul Coach at the time, Charmayne Kilcup. 

Charmayne was referred to me from a fellow Canadian contact, Karen Black, author of The Soulmate Site.  After exchanging emails pertaining to my Soulmate Story, Karen Black raved that she had worked with Charmayne Kilcup before and that Charmayne was a true healer and could help me to better understand what I was going through.

Let me premise all this exploration with the fact that I am not highly religious, nor have any spiritual background whatsoever.  But I do believe that I am intuitive and at the time my Soulmate experience had opened me up to new possibilities and the idea of the “unknown”.  It was like an awakening, nothing seemed to be the same anymore, nothing else seemed to matter. 

Because Charmayne was from California, U.S and I was from Canada I was skeptical of how she really would be capable of providing me with the insight I needed at the time over the phone.

As a last resort to defer some of the pain, it was worth a try for me.  I contacted Charmayne and set up my first phone session. 

My first session was unlike anything I had ever experienced.  Immediately upon hearing Charmayne’s voice it was as if I knew her.  Her voice was calming and understanding, she seemed to feel and know what I was going through without me even telling her any details.  In the first session, we did some meditation exercises to release any negative blocks to my energy that were appearing.  I had never meditated before so the whole concept seemed foreign to me but Charmayne guided me through the whole process over the phone and soon enough it was as if I was floating.  Indescribable really, but I felt different after, the lump in my throat had vanished and my anxiety levels had gone down remarkably.  I was even surprised at the little things Charmayne seemed to know about me that she would not have known through our email exchanges. 

As the weeks progressed, I had a few more sessions with Charmayne.  Through these sessions I was able to tap into my spiritual side and further explore even some events from my past that were holding me back energy wise.  At the time I had been reading books pertaining to contacting my Angels.  In one particular session I remember getting on the phone with Charmayne and her saying, “Before you even say anything I have been receiving messages for you for the past day from some Angels”.  I was taken a back, how did she know I was trying to contact my Angels?  I had not told her I had been investigating the idea and doing the exercises.  I am not going to share the details of the message but what I can say is that the message was definitely designated for me, for the words that Charmayne spoke was from a place that I never even share, no one knew my inner thoughts like this. 

After a few sessions, I began to feel more in control again.  I felt that I could live again without the day-to-day anxiety and stress over the departure of my Soulmate.  I began to trust that all this was happening for a greater reason, one that I just had not figured out yet. 

I would highly recommend Charmayne if you are looking for intuitive spiritual guidance and energy healing at anytime in your life.  Skeptic or not, I am confident Charmayne is a true healer and believe in her capabilities. 

Below is an excerpt detailing Charmayne’s background from her site Charmayne Kilcup.  I have also posted a link to her website on Vanity and Insanity’s main page.

I would encourage you to check it out and experience Charmayne’s gift for yourself.

Charmayne was born in 1982 as a naturally gifted Indigo/Crystal.  As a child, Charmayne was in touch with many angels and frequently saw and talked to the many spirits, spirit guides, and angels that surrounded her.  She remembers lucid dreaming at a young age and actively being in contact with entities in other dimensions. 

As a teenager, Charmayne began to study metaphysics and pursued her interest in world religion.  It was during this time that Charmayne began to witness extreme paranormal phenomena such as seeing and hearing spirits, witnessing levitating objects, and receiving random psychic “hits.”

However, in July 2006, Charmayne experienced a profound spiritual awakening.  One night while meditating in solitude in the mountains of Colorado, her soul started talking to her.  At this time, her soul told her that she was a powerful spiritual teacher and healer and was here to help usher in a new wave of consciousness.  After this event, Charmayne began to study energy work, indigo & crystal children, 2012, channeling, meditation, and new energy consciousness.  It was during this time that series of events unfolded that all pointed to her destiny as powerful psychic and spiritual healer.

It was during this time that Charmayne found herself acting as a conduit of Cosmic love.  She had many past life memories and began to receive information about the history of Earth and its future.  No longer in danger of the an Apocalypse, Charmayne commited her life to helping others through the awakening process through joy, love, healing, and awareness. 

As part of her awakening process, Charmayne’s psychic gifts blossomed and she found herself part of many spontaneous healings.  She studied intensely with spiritual teachers throughout New Mexico to find the best ways of using her many gifts as intuitive teacher and healer.  She found that her particular gifts lay in energy healing using psychic work and channeling.

Charmayne holds a B.A. in Psychology, a M.A. in Counseling, and is currently pursuing a PhD at the Institute of Transpersonal Psychology in Palo Alto.