I will admit in some of my past relationships, that initial connection I felt had been based on looks, ok a lot of them.
I had this idea that you needed to have this instantaneous, crazy, I want to pull your clothes off type feeling. If that feeling was not there you would not have a chance with me.
I often date guys who fit a certain type that I feel I am most attracted to. They have a sort of Abercrombie look to them, typically are super sporty, hilarious and are generally extremely confident (OK and assholes).
The thing is these relationships are not seemingly panning out for me. I am starting to question if my approach may be off; that the idea of what I THINK I want is not really what I NEED.
The more and more I talk to people who have healthy long-lasting relationships, the more I start to see a trend. Often times they didn`t even like the person to begin with or started off as friends. These relationships grew over time and became intimate from all respects, not just physically.
I do think you can grow to love someone. I just struggle with the idea that most people say that when they met that special someone, they just KNEW that person was the one they were going to be with. The two ideas contradict themselves.
I guess what I am trying to say is looks are not everything. Clothes, style, body etc., those things don`t make you fall in love with someone. It is their personality, the way they treat you and the way that person makes you feel that really counts.